Now I’m not silly enough to really believe that this would have changed in the last year. I just wish that in this last year I didn’t have to help 4 of my friends deal with rape or sexual harassment trauma’. That people I know weren’t still being constantly hurt. Hurt because some people don’t understand that No Means NO.

When I was a child my mother often would tell me No when I asked for things at the supermarket, especially lollies. Like a sugar craving kid I would ask her again and again. begging her. PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASSSSSSEEEEEEEE. Exasperatedly she would turn to me and exclaim “I Said NO Which part of the word don’t you understand the N or the O?”

So I guess I ask those out there pressuring women and men. Which part is it that you have trouble with? Is it the N or the O? See maybe if I understand this we can bring greater education to the world about this issue. We can clarify this misunderstanding of the simple two letter word.

But I see the problem is you think they don’t mean it when they say no. That stop is just a joke. Cause you are king of the world and everything is yours to say and do. It’s owed to you.

Perhaps you could try shutting up. Not saying everything you think as you think of it. That your compliments are not needed or necessary. In fact they are creepy. You don’t have to tell me I look pretty with my make-up or without it. You definitely do not need to tell me my dress makes you think dirty things. I CAN live my life without your running commentary.

Don’t you get it I dress this way for ME.

I don’t do anything to please you. It is all for me.

Learn to keep your opinion to yourself. I don’t want to hear it. Not when I’m on the train reading my book. Not when I’m dancing at the bus to to my ipod. Not when I’m walking briskly down the street in the way to cold for this dress weather. Not even now. I don’t care what you think. Not now not EVER!

If I don’t want the compliments I definitely don’t want the insults.

I also want you to stop laying the blame for your mistakes and your stupidity on me. It is not my fault you can’t keep your mouth shut. It is not my fault you cannot keep it in your pants. Last time I checked most people can be around me without throwing themselves at me. I mean I know I’m hot, but everyone else seems to be able to keep their composure.
So please I need to know.. What part of No don’t you understand? Is it the N or the O?

I used to cut myself, it was the only way I could let the overwhelming pain flow from my body, the physical pain releasing the emotional pain. I used to do it in places no one would ever see along my inner thighs and my rib cage under my arms. One day I cut to deep and the bleeding was too much. I didn’t go to the hospital I didn’t want them to think I tried to kill myself. I was able to make the bleeding stop, and in that moment, I realised all of it had to stop. If I didn’t stop this cutting even that would begin to grow numb, and soon I would need to cut deeper and deeper, and maybe next time I wouldn’t be able to stop the bleeding. Or even worse I wouldn’t want to stop the bleeding. I’m not going to lie, it wasn’t easy and sometimes still when I feel emotionally frustrated I want the run a knife along my skin. But I don’t. I stop, because there are better ways to deal with emotions, and I deserve those better ways. I see that now.

Over the past year I have had the amazing chance to get to know Mojo, and the privilege to call her my friend. I sit here now and am slightly surprised that at one time she completely terrified me. When I first met her at the Green Party AGM in 2009 she was such a strong, passionate, and outspoken woman I couldn’t help be completely intimidated.

I will be honest when I first met her I held a lot of assumptions about how she would be since she was deaf. Within a few short minutes though Mojo had completely broken through all those assumptions. She didn’t let anyone walk, or talk over her, her disability wasn’t holding her back that was for sure. The more time I spent around her the more I saw what an amazing and persuasive speaker she is, her passion for so many topics, and her love for her daughters(who are amazing women in their own rights)

I have also unfortunately heard some really inane and stupid reasons why she isn’t “suitable” for parliament, all them focused on her disability.  One of the key one’s I’ve heard is that Parliament isn’t set up for a deaf Member of Parliament, which is just ignorant and lazy excuse. If we let excuses like this effect our everyday there would be no wheelchair ramps anywhere, our cross walks wouldn’t be accessible to the blind, and allergy information wouldn’t be on food packets. Parliament isn’t set up for a deaf person? Then let’s change that.

I think it is about time we had a Member of Parliament who truly understands what it’s like to be disabled in Society today. One who understands that the disabled community of New Zealand are the most disadvantaged community.

I’m being unfair to Mojo though by just highlighting what she would do for the Disabled Community, for she is very knowledgeable and eloquent on many key Green Party issues. Her passions also include the Impact the Dairy Industry has on our environment and influences on Climate Change.

As a woman with a disability, and is concern by the state of our environment and our world, I cannot think of anyone better to represent me in parliament than Mojo Mathers.

At number 14 on the List the Green Party would need to get just over 12% for her to make it into parliament and I think this is a real possibility this election; and my vote will be cast in her favour.

Please don’t just take my word for it though, here are some great links on Mojo and her complete awesomeness:

Mojo Mathers Green Party Official Page

News Wire article on Mojo

Stuff article on Mojo

-Gaming, I’m starting a Primetime Adventures Game soon AND plotting to GM a Monster Of The Week game. one is Sci-Fi and the other Urban Fantasy… WOOT!

-Matte Nail Polish I’ve been addicted to it lately… love the look, so flat and so neat.

-LARPing I have one tomorrow that includes contacts that I’m having the hardest time getting into my eyes….

-finally this song lately has been stuck in my head…

honorable mentions:

-Comics (Kill Shakespeare is a personal Favorite I discovered)

-Glee

-Dexter

-Getting to watch buffy, supernatural, xfiles, etc for research.

-My hair being longer than I realize which is exciting!

Nail polish… I’ve been a bit addicted to it lately… painting my nails at least every 3 days!!!! I started a nail tumblr feel free to follow me over there

Larping… I was in an awesome Victorian LARP last weekend I have one next weekend and another in November!!! WOOT!

Sewing… I have heaps of things to get through! hopefully this weekend will be all sewing all the time!

My Hair… It’s so long it’s Bra Strap length at it’s longest!

and finally Wreck My Journal being on it’s way!!!!

(sorry this is incredibly short I wanted to get this out there and done before I forgot AGAIN! :-p )